December is upon us and we are now in the countdown to Christmas, with advent door calendars
being opened and mischievous elves hiding around the house. Whilst it’s an exciting time with the
prospect of being with loved ones, celebrating and sharing memories it can also be lonely for some;
it’s also the countdown of the final month of the year, and this is when I see people taking a reality
check and accessing what they have or haven’t achieved this in 2023. When the best new year’s
resolutions, intensions and goals haven’t been met or come into fruition, now is when we start to
reflect and take a look at where we feel seek change in our lives, as we want to live differently in the
pending year.
I see people get a little bit down this time of year, because they feel they have not achieved enough,
done enough, been enough or loved enough; Maybe this is you? maybe you feel you keep making
promises or goals that just never get completed, you feel frustrated coming to the end of the year
that another year has gone by, and you are still not in the place you want to be, you are not yet the
person you want to be, you are not doing the thing you really to do.
This is when we can go into self-destruct mode of “why bother nothing ever works out for me”, “I
just can’t do it”, “I’m not good enough”, I’m unlovable”, “I will never lose the weight” or “ I will
always be broke and stive for money”
But one thing I would like you to know, IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!!! Yes, you heard me!! If any of this
resonates with you … IT’S NOT YOUR FAULT!!!
A lot of who we are, and how we show up as an adult is all down to our programming, mainly from
when we were a child. Our life right now is a reflection of what programme we are running (and
unaware of!). We are the product of how our parents raised us, we are the record of what we heard
and what was drilled into us as kids, we have the beliefs given to us by the adult figures around us as
kids, and all this is now playing out in us as an adult – hence it’s not your fault!
As the “adulting” us, we now play out beliefs, programmes, traumas, and patterns of behaviour that
we witnessed or were ingrained unconsciously into us; we now pass these to those around us, our
own children, our partners, we have turbulent relationships with loved ones and we lay blame,
dissatisfaction, we yell at the kids.
We are using the programme that is running silently within us, the unmet needs, the past, hurt,
sadness, the ancestry lines of emotions, beliefs, values, that were given to us as children. We
continue the cycle of unconscious parenting, failing at our goals, trying to make change in life,
whether that is getting fitter, change of career, finding a better partner, attracting more money.
However it’s a struggle, we just don’t seem to be able to get there, we make our new goals, we set
our New Year Resolutions, we get motivated for a few weeks, but then, we fall back into our old
patterns. The excuses then come up for why we can’t have what we want, be who we want or do
what we desire. We remain stuck.
Again, isn’t your fault!!
HOWEVER, it is your responsibility to STOP, and to wake up!!!!! It’s time to “Awaken the Woman
Within You”!!!! and say NO MORE!!!
Taking responsibly means, taking control of your life and CHOOSING to make change, and wanting to
be the women you want to be!!! STOP the excuses and ask for help to awaking the empowered
women that is residing within you!!
You may….
My mistakes ……
As a woman in my 40s I’ve made a ton of mistakes over my adulting years, I’ve got regrets, wished I
had not said or done something, or even wished I had done something; but my biggest thing to come
out of all this to STOP…… To STOP looking back at my regrets, STOP thinking I SHOULD have done
things differently, to STOP thinking I “Should” be in a different place, and whilst YES maybe I could
have done things differently, where I am right now is not going to change where I am right now.
I have every reason to be still mad at my 3 exes for cheating on me, I have every reason to feel
sadness over losing people in my life, I have every reason to still be hurt from my parents doing
inconsiderate things to me, BUT!!! the reason I now show up every day in a healed, aligned, happy,
fulfilled and just plain magically way… is all down to me doing the inner work, letting go,
reprogramming who I thought I was, CHANGING ME!! Because what I realise after so so long after
trying to change everyone around me and failing at it, not achieving my dreams, I realised that you
CAN’T change anyone, not your partner, your family your kids ..NOONE!!!! – it all comes from you!!!
Give yourself a Christmas wish, the wish to make 2024 a magical year!!
