So, after dropping my daughter off at school, I went for an 8-mile run in the forest; it was
such a lovely autumnal day out there and I was motivated to get miles in my legs in
preparation for a half marathon. However after about 5 miles I thought about heading
home instead of running for the planned 8; I had a long “to do” list to complete that day and
if I stayed out running, I may not have got it completed. I then had instant internal conflict
with myself debating what I should do which resulted in making myself feeling guilty for
being out running; surely I should be sat at my desk cracking on with my list and starting my
working day instead!
I realised two things in that moment: 1. Why am I making myself feel guilty over a choice I
have made and it wasn’t like I was sitting down watching Netflix! 2. If I did go home and end
my run early, I would then beat myself up for not completing the last 3 miles and would feel
guilt for not adhering to my training plan. So really each scenario was really of no service or
use to me and I just found myself in a no win situation! Can anyone resonate with this?
Thankfully as a mindset coach I saw the old patterns of my thoughts emerge before allowing
them to take over and sabotage my thought process, which in the past would have turned
into a day full of self-condemnation.
Why is it us women (and many men I would guess!) constantly beat ourselves up for doing
one thing but feeling we should be doing something else or be somewhere else instead?
This in turn makes the present moment we are in less enjoyable and full of guilt, anxiety and
sometimes self-sabotage and speaking badly to ourselves?! Why is it we feel we can’t enjoy
the present moment and accept the choice we made without the guilt, self-deprivation and
angst?
It’s simple!!! And the reason I know is not from being a coach but because I have walked
that path my entire life! I can see the signs! I have had so much guilt, self-sabotage and
negative self-talk my entire life, I really have got the T-Shirt…. and I used to wear it EVERY
DAY…..
The reason we feel like this is because we feel we “are not enough”; we feel we are not
good enough, we should be doing better, we feel guilty for doing something for us”. We
spend time thinking we should do and have “something different”. We are so wrapped up in
the past and our thoughts, we fail to live in the present moment. We sow the seeds of
yesteryear for our yet again predictable future and let the gift of the present lapse.
But what if there was a way out? What it you could leave the past behind you? Stop looking
in that rear view mirror at the old habits which don’t serve you and keep you tied up in the
past; that keep you imprisoned in your own negative thoughts behaviours and actions which
then becomes your reality; your repeating life patterns and a future which any dodgy
fortune teller could easily predict.
And the thing to know is ….it’s NOT YOUR FAULT!! And even better….it’s easy to become
free of them! The key is about understanding what limiting decisions and beliefs are running
in your unconscious mind, in your neurology. It’s understanding and bringing into our
conscious awareness what values we have; what were the patterns and behaviours being
imprinted in our minds whilst we were growing up? It could be from some form of trauma
that happened to us; but could also just be simply taking on other people’s beliefs, or
making an unconscious decision of why we can’t do or have something at a point in our life
which has been supressed which in turn is keeping us stuck and creating a life we do not
really want.
Here’s the thing… many coaches, therapists and counsellors believe you need to know or
understand what happened to you; many believe you need to talk about your problems as it
helps….I disagree! As a coach and importantly from my own personal experience, talking
about the problem and attempting to understand what & why a past event happened not
only keeps you trapped in that turmoil and that situation, but also that associated pain you
are in both consciously and unconsciously. How does knowing what happened alleviate that
pain? Well, it doesn’t!
What if there was another way? What if you could just release that pain or trauma from the
past without reliving the event? What if you could find the root cause for your suffering,
your unhappiness, the repeating life patterns you can see occurring? What if you could
release any limiting beliefs or decisions that stop you showing up as you wish, and you can
really start living a life you are happy with, dropping excuses of why you can’t do something,
why you can’t be the person who lives out their dream, or why you don’t have enough
money for example?
Well, the good news is YOU CAN! You can become that person free of their past! You can
become the person who is happy and content in themselves! You can attract the success,
happiness, money, job and partner you desire!
The first step is understanding what is holding you back from creating exactly that life and
that normally stems from unresolved negative emotions from our past, or unconscious
limiting beliefs or decisions that are running in our neurology. It’s these emotions and
limiting beliefs that keep us bound to a life which we are not truly contented in.
If you want to identify your limiting beliefs, I have a free workbook that you can download
to find out; the workbook is a great start in looking at what programmes are running, but if you need
help then why not book a free discovery session with me? Click Here
The next step is to then find the deepest limiting belief, the root cause and the reasons you
are not experiencing the life you want. It’s then a case of removing the belief and
subsequently the attached negative emotions.
Now a lot of coaches and therapists teach you how to mask the emotion by simply
reframing the old emotions or limiting decision and then just repeating the new
empowering decision over and over until you adopt that new mindset. But what it doesn’t
do it actually remove the negative emotion or the root cause of that limiting belief; it is
literally a cover up! Hence, it’s not permanent!
However, as a practitioner in Conscious Emotional Transformation (CET) which is a
revolutionary and profound emotional release and healing technology, this technique not
only deletes the root cause of a limiting belief, but it also releases negative emotions from
the past. If you are keen to find out mor jump on a call with me
